I recently listened to an interview with the American surgeon and writer Atul Gawande. During the interview, he shared some advice from a colleague that had a profound impact on me. It was simple but profound: “Say yes to everything before you’re forty. And say no to everything after you’re forty.” I had heard similar advice in the past, along these lines, although I wasn’t sure who to attribute it to.
From a professional perspective, this idea resonated deeply with me. Perhaps too drastic or strict, but I fully understand and share the idea he’s trying to convey. Early in our careers, saying “yes” opens doors, creates opportunities, and develops various skills. It’s a time of exploration and growth, where each “yes” can lead to unexpected and valuable experiences. As Gawande famously said: “Improvement is possible. It doesn’t require genius. It requires diligence. It requires moral clarity. It requires ingenuity. And, above all, the will to try.”
However, as we get older and establish ourselves in our careers, the power of “no” becomes more important. IT’S ABOUT FOCUSING ON WHAT TRULY MATTERS, SETTING BOUNDARIES, AND PRIORITIZING YOUR TIME AND ENERGY. By saying “no,” you can focus on what aligns with your goals and values, ensuring your efforts are directed toward what truly makes a difference. Gawande reminds us, “You may not control life’s circumstances, but being the author of your life means being able to control what you do with them.”
This advice serves as a reminder that our career paths evolve, and so should our approach to opportunities. Embrace “yes” in your early years and don’t be afraid to use “no” as you become more experienced. As Gawande says, “Developing a skill is painful. It’s difficult. And that’s part of the fulfillment. You will only find meaning in what you struggle with.”
Finally, I share some advice from Atul Gawande that sums up the central idea of this post:
“As you grow and advance in your career, analyze what empowered you and what weakened you. And then, do your best to organize your life to enjoy more of the former and less of the latter.”
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